Controlling Love in Relationships

Why do people stay with mates that control and dominate them, thus taking a large measure of their freedom in relationships? The obvious answer is that the person lacks self-esteem and confidence and may feel that he or she cannot find love elsewhere. Children often link mates together even if one of the partners is controlling and dominating the other.

Are men mostly domineering and controlling? No. women can be domineering and controlling as well, and I have analyzed two case scenarios were the women in the relationship had full control. One case scenario a woman coming from a background of abuse met her soul mate through friends. The two joined and together they had six children combined. The woman who penalized them with threats if they failed to adhere to her demands controlled all the children and mate.

Although the relationship the man was not permitted to look at women at first, nor was, he allowed watching television programs at leisure. Sure, men in relationships, or else good men will not have wondering eyes, or else engage in activities that cause others harm, such as pornographic materials. Still, he had no room to show her that he had only the best intentions for their relationship. Later throughout the relationship, she showed leniency, but still the woman controlled the home.

Some women are passive yet still control in different methods. While the first woman enforced threats to control the home, another woman used mechanisms of human nature to control her relationships. She was a skilled manipulator and controller, whereas she under minded the men she had relationships. The woman was adulterous, manipulator and an outstanding liar if one was not smart to her tricks. Through lies and manipulation, the woman controlled the men she had relationships with, and when the men would not adhere to her demands she would throw temper tantrums, or else become violent.

The woman was a lousy mother, since she showed no regard to her children and used them to control the men she engaged in relationships with. Throughout her history, she had trials of promiscuous behaviors, violent behaviors, and a history of deceit.

While this is a couple of case scenarios of controlling and dominating relationships, men from afar have been in relationships showing controlling and domineering traits far more than women. Not all men are controlling and domineering, but the men that illustrate such behaviors are often violent predatory humans. The men that control or dominate will often use violence, threats, manipulation, lies, and other hasty mechanisms to control the mate. Often these types are unfaithful, and will make up all types of excuses for their unnatural behaviors.

Therefore, when joining in a relationship it is wise to know what you are getting into before you make commitments. Some relationships start out with one partner controlling the other through manipulation and the mate fails to see the signs and realizes what happens when a trail of harm starts and finishes in deeper conditions. Thus, the mate may start out telling the partner what she or he wants to hear to lower the person into the web of control, deceit, and domination. Other times the mate may act as though they are not interested in the mate, especially if the mate is attracted to the person.

Heed warning, since controlling and dominating relationships leave a string of victims throughout the term of the relationship, and sometimes the victim is unable to leave the relationship since the mate may threaten family members, friends, or else the mate. Other times the mate never gets out, since death was the ultimate result of the controlling and dominating relationship.

If a man or woman is controlling you, it is unlikely the person will change. Some people stay in dominating and controlling relationships believing the person will change once the mate shows them love. Other dominating and controlling relationships continue since the partner makes the mate feel like no one else wants them. They often under mind and belittle the partner, until the self-esteem and confidence is zip. If you are in a controlling and dominating relationship, you may want to consider steps of leaving your partner behind.